Long Distance Relationships Movies
Looking for some great long distance relationships movies? While we’ve made some recommendations in the past, the best is yet to come. People in LDRs around the globe are waiting in anticipation for this Friday’s release of Like Crazy, which is billed as a realistic portrayal of the tough struggles that LDR couples often face. Caution folks: the movie does not have a fairy tale ending.
The actors in the movie, Anton Yelchin and Felicity Jones (who won Best Actress at Sundance for her role in the film) do a lot of improvisation in the film and the result is raw and gut-wrenchingly real. You are likely to recognize you and your significant other in the film.
Why is this more realistic and not just another Drew Barrymore piece of romantic fluff? Maybe because the film’s creator, Drake Doremus actually lived through a long distance relationship and made the film almost as a personal catharsis.
Doremus, revealed that he doesn’t think of his movie as a long distance relationship movie which is interesting because that’s what it’s about. He’s what he said in an interview posted on sdcitybeat.com:
“I describe it totally differently than most people,” he says. “I would describe it as a story about two people who try to move on from each other but can’t. That’s the thrust of the movie, the conflict of the movie, more than anything. It’s actually that they are fighting to get over each other and cannot, and that’s the most debilitating thing about the love.” He should know—the movie is autobiographical. Doremus, who’s 28, was 18 when he met the woman with whom he’d have a seven-year intercontinental relationship. He says that making the movie was a huge part of moving on from that part of his life.
One of the best of the long distance relationships movies genre may be the new film, Like Crazy.
“It’s in my past, but in order to put it in my past, I needed to make a film,” he says. “I went through all that and had all these feelings and emotions swimming in me that were really, really personal, and I was, like, ‘I think I need to make a movie about this.’”
“Love makes us do silly things, and love makes us do things we don’t necessarily use logic to figure out,” he says. “Capturing the loss of logic and the naiveté was important to me.”
After reflecting on the breakup of his long distance relationship, Doremus says:
“I think I made the right decision for how I felt at the time,” he says. “I listened to my heart, and as an artist and a filmmaker, that’s what I do for a living. So, in my life, I gotta do the same. If I hadn’t gone to Europe, if I hadn’t decided to make this movie, if I hadn’t done so many of the things that I did in the name of love, I wouldn’t be here today.” …
Spoken like a true artist. An artist of the heart.
Yes, LDRs are full of loneliness and struggles unknown to those in same-city relationships. Still, you know your heart. Follow it.
After you’ve seen the film, please come back to this page and tell us how you rate Like Crazy when compared with other long distance relationships movies.
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Long Distance Relationships Hurt
Anyone who has been in an LDR for long knows that long distance relationships hurt primarily because you miss each other, but also because the distance may set off all your insecurities and leave you wondering if it’s worth it after all. Instead of being viewed as a negative though, you can see this as an opportunity to work on your weaknesses both as individuals and as a couple.
But what about couples who have just started a long distance relationship? For them, the doubts and insecurities are even greater because they may not have yet achieved the level of trust in the relationship where they can begin to talk about real issues, define boundaries for what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior and set up routines to check in daily with their partner.
For instance on butch-femme.com, one person wrote in looking for advice on her relatively new LDR:
I’m two months into a long-distance relationship, and I need help to hold onto my sanity! I know many of you have been in this boat longer than I, so I am hoping you may have some advice.
So my questions for those of you in (or formerly in) LDR’s:
How often do you communicate and how?
How do you maintain a work/life balance?
How often do you see each other? Do you recommend going places and having adventures or just playing house for the weekend?
Do you have some kind of routine, or do you communicate sporadically?
How do you get through all the ups and downs of having someone you love so near, and then so far away?
And for those of you who’ve ultimately made this work, would you suggest moving to the same city in separate places at first or just moving together?…
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In response to her questions, one man whose significant other lives just a 2-hour drive away advised:
My girlfriend and I live 2 hours apart and do the weekend thing too. I know how you feel, and yes it SUCKS. We talk everyday, all day long, mostly on text, we talk on the phone ALL the time, and at night we use Facetime and watch our favorite TV shows together. It helps.
While another person added her tips:
We did have a routine until life got in the middle of it. We would start out the morning by talking on the phone and being lazy in bed for about an hour just being. We text randomly all day if possible. We say good night via text and always wish each other the sweetest of dreams.
Long distance relationships hurt especially when what you're getting doesn't match your expectations. This is why you need to talk about things early on.
Long distance relationships hurt, especially when you are unable to share with the other person what you need to feel secure and confident in your romance. This is especially true at the start. That’s why couples who choose to enter an LDR need to treat it differently than a same-city relationship. Instead of waiting to see “how it goes,” they need to talk often and early about what they each expect from the relationship, suggest guidelines for checking in as well as letting each other have space, and understand that the pain of missing each other and the worries that their partner might feel lonely and start seeing someone else are something that need to be worked out, rather than ignored.
Although strategies for staying connected are good, texting randomly all day long does not replace the need to have a talk about values, the commitment that both parties are making to the relationship and what you can do to help each other feel close and trusting even when apart.
How about you? What do you do to maintain a deep connection with your partner? What advice do you have to give to the person whose question started this article?
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Long Distance Relationship Pillow Talk
What exactly is long distance relationship pillow talk? It’s not what you might think. For instance, it’s not about staying up in bed and talking about your hopes, dreams and ideas about life until the wee hours of the morning. After all, folks, we are talking about an LDR here. In an LDR, being in the same bed together for some actual pillow talk is a luxury.
And no, it’s not about doing what I just described above via Skype or on the telephone. Nope, Pillow Talk is actually the name of a new product, geared specifically to couples in LDRs. Pillow Talk is a pillow that connects you to your partner, no matter where he or she is sleeping in the world.
Here’s what author Megan Gibson had to say about it in an article posted on the Times newsfeed:
So to combat the cold loneliness, Scottish designer Joanna Montgomery has created Pillow Talk, a glowing, pulsing pillow that’s wirelessly connected to your lover’s heart. It works like this: each partner has a ring that monitors their heartbeat and transmits that pulse to a fabric panel that the other partner puts inside their pillow. So when your boyfriend or girlfriend puts on the ring before bed, your pillow will glow and pulse along to their real-time heartbeat.
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Although this pillow makes a novel long distance relationship gift for couples (each person gets their own pillow to represent their missing partner), it may be one of those items that you use with great anticipation, but only for awhile.
Why?
All the technology involved. Each person must wear a strap around their chest area (like the kind you wear to measure your heart rate with a runner’s watch) and a ring on their finger. When your lover has his strap and ring on, his pillow (in your bed) will glow and pulse with each beat of his heart. While it may be nice to cuddle up in bed with a pillow that let’s you know that your lover is safe in bed, If you’re one of those people who need total darkness and silence to fall asleep, the on-and-off glow of the pillow combined with the buzz of your lover’s simulated heartbeat could prevent a good night’s sleep.
After watching the video above, tell us what you think of the long distance relationship Pillow Talk. Is it a gift that you’d like to give or get or do you think that it would end up being an annoyance?
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