Long Distance Relationships Break Up
Long distance relationships break up for a variety of reasons. While some may claim that if your LDR didn’t work out that you didn’t really, truly love each other, the story that is presented below shows that this is not always the case. Sometimes, two people love each other very much, but realize that the pain of waiting or putting their lives on hold is just too much, especially if there is not a date somewhere in the not-too-distant future when they can finally make their lives together in the same place.
In a bittersweet article on long distance relationships that was posted on daytondailynews.com, a man named Joel, who met his LDR sweetheart, Joanie, at a school reunion and then kept up the relationship online, talks about how much he missed her when they were apart:
Joel says he came to rely on Joanie’s daily emails “to get me through my many tiresome work days, and I suspect my emails were equally anticipated.
“Seldom did we miss a day. We would call each other, too. Sometimes our phone conversations would last nearly three hours. I felt only emptiness when we said good night.”
Although they loved each other faithfully and enjoyed a number of visits that further confirmed their compatibility and commitment to each other, there came a time when the couple realized that the minimal contact in their long distance relationship was not enough to sustain them.
Joel confides:
Joel’s “final and goodbye forever visit” with Joanie was in April 2011. They attended Palm Sunday services together. “I’d like to marry her, I thought. She was just so great. And I was so happy sitting next to her. I felt a connection with her that I never felt before with any other woman.”
It would be nice if the story ended there, but it didn’t.
Joel and Joanie decided that the 1000 miles that separated them was too big an obstacle to overcome.
“It was terribly sad for the both of us when we realized it. Although we told each other that we’d stay in touch, the emails have grown fewer and farther between. And I know they’ll eventually stop. I feel as if little pieces of my heart and soul have forever died.”
www.daytondailynews.com/…/couple-faces-challenges-of-lon…
Long distance relationships break up for various reasons, not always because the couple has fallen out of love.
Although we didn’t post this story to make you sad or to discourage you from continuing your LDR, it’s important to realize that even though some people feel that they are truly meant for each other, sometimes, long distance relationships break up due to factors outside the relationship. Sometimes, the couple has no hope of being able to live together in the foreseeable future and while they enjoy each other’s company and cherish the qualities that the other person brings to the relationship, there may come a time when the need for a same-city relationship and the yearning to be with someone who can be there physically becomes more real than the dream of waiting to be together. Sometimes, the dreaming, hoping and yearning loses its luster of romance.
This story is offered up because it illustrates how two people can truly love each other and still choose not to go the distance. It emphasizes how this choice can be made with dignity and maturity and without drama.
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